I’m not paranoid – I’m just isolated: coaching reflections on how our thoughts can mask facing up to the real issue

Take Away Line All of us have these little annoying loops that go round in our minds. They can sometimes appear almost paranoid. But can we think of them as purposeful in anyway? Sometimes they can mask a bigger concern, distracting us from tackling that bigger concern. Here’s a coaching tale of working with these…

In praise of recognition, but not praise itself: coaching reflections for leaders

Take Away Line Half-hearted praise does as much for self-esteem as casual criticism. If you want to build the confidence of your people, they need to feel recognised not praised. And that’s about how you engage with them. Whole-hearted and fully present engagement may sound ungainly as a phrase, but it’s the trick to build…

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Changing and not changing: midsummer maternal madness and understanding resistance in a coaching situation

Take Away Line An organisational community can be torn over questions of change. All too often, as in the case presented here, resistance can be configured as a monolith to be crushed or avoided. But working with an organisational leader to deal with resistance, considering it as a source of intelligence while thinking of the resisters as…